There is something about the urgency of a quickie that undoes me every time. I feel it in every cell of my body. A warm, deep, tidal rush.
No time for slow seduction, profound conversation, or lingering in the shower before the towel is slowly teased off. On another day, those things can be perfect. For a quickie, eager exuberance allows for towels to be flung. Dive in. Short bookings, when treated as an art of pleasure in their own right, are breathtakingly good. But there are some practical reasons to pursue them too:
- For those with tight schedules, a short booking means that a precious break between meetings or travel can be truly well spent.
- For those who are simply into the anonymity of a booking where there is little time to reveal too much about each other, or where added boundaries are sought, a shorter booking is ideal.
- For those intrigued about seeing a sex worker, but unsure if it is for them, shorter bookings can be a useful test of the appetite for sex in a brothel context. Just keep in mind that a 30 minute booking is not simply a shorter version of an hour long one – it lands differently. Wonderfully, but differently.
There are some caveats to my quickie recommendations:
- Short bookings, that is 30 minute or 45 minutes, can be made for most booking types, including GFE, Pornstar Experience, and BDSM / kink bookings. But not every booking suits being quick.
- For someone more nervous about sexual intimacy in general, a booking of an hour+ will work better. That gives enough time to enjoy a glass of wine with your companion, to simply settle in her arms, slowly make out, enjoy the erotic energy and sexual intimacy without added performance or time pressure.
- For those who prefer to tease out a slow stirring of desire, to take their time climaxing, or who want to enjoy sex without necessarily coming to orgasm at all, a longer booking is absolutely what you want.
- If you want to give your lover multiple orgasms, or you want multiple orgasms, likewise book longer.
- If you want to get to know someone before sex, or after sex, book longer.
- If in doubt, book longer. This is because schedules can change, and it is not always possible to extend bookings if you realise you want more time with your lover. You can always approach a longer booking with quickie energy, and circle back to another kind of touch or energy.
- For Pornstar Experience, Kinky Girlfriend and Domme bookings in particular, consider the amount of ‘warm-up’ needed in a booking. This is not just for you, but your partner as well, as some sexual activities feel best when eased into – think anal play, or deep throat for example. Likewise, some kink scenarios are more process orientated than others (if you know, you know), and multiple or intense roleplay or fantasies will simply not work in a short booking. If it will be your first time seeing a particular domme, book at least an hour. If you need some time after a kink session to come back to yourself, that is also a good reason to book a longer session.
What will work, if a quickie is needed or wanted, is embracing the specificity of available time. This works regardless of booking type. You can incorporate it explicitly into the roleplay, fantasy, or more subtly into a general approach. Yes, for Girlfriend Experience too – because quickies happen in that context too, right? Have a taste and see where it takes you.