Face-sitting has a long history. I’d suggest that for as long as humans have had sex, there have been variations of it.
I once had a client tell me he wanted to try something really kinky, before whispering in my ear that he wanted to perform cunnilingus.
He didn’t mean face-sitting, that concept hadn’t yet reached him, rather what most of us would simply term giving head and common in a Girlfriend Experience booking. Namely, the receiver laid back on the bed and the giver happily face down between her legs. And all credit to him, despite his initial shyness, his enthusiasm and willingness to be guided resulted in a good time for all.
Yes, after a fair number of more vanilla sessions, he did explore face-sitting. But even face-sitting is not necessarily kinky. It depends on how it is done, the power dynamic, fantasies at play, and the physicality of it. Face-sitting can also be intimate and satisfying in a romantic, vanilla context.
For those who just really get off on the writhing pleasure of their lover, who can’t get enough of the taste of her, face-sitting can simply be a more intense and encompassing experience than giving head from above. Conversely, face-sitting allows the receiver to control the pace, angle and depth of cunnilingus, and that’s a huge turn-on for so many people, who now get to taste it, see it and feel it.
The pleasure of women is hot. Face-sitting can result in stronger orgasms and an enhanced ride for those on top, and it doesn’t need to involve a dominance /submissive role per se. It is also a great way to tease the lover beneath, because you can simply pull away.
Face-sitting can even be incorporated into a sensual massage booking, with those sex workers who offer it as an extra. It works surprisingly well on a massage table.
But we all know face-sitting lends itself perfectly to a BDSM and kink scenario. This is where it comes into its own. This is because face-sitting – also known as queening – marries the psychological with the physical in an almost divine way. And the centre of it all is the pussy.
The submissive is a plaything to be used at his Mistress’s whim. His own pleasure forbidden, unable to even touch himself, relief to be begged for. He is likewise physically restrained, not necessarily by ropes and chains (although possibly) but by the very body of the goddess above him. Thighs wrapped tight around his head and chest, his mouth, tongue and nose forced deep, only for further punishment to unfurl if his worship is judged to be lacking.
Of course, when a Domme is satisfied, and she deems it so, the world may open….
Did you know:
- For a brief period of time (2014-2019), face-sitting was banned from pornography in the UK. Part of a whole raft of prohibitions focused on BDSM pornography, which extended to fisting and female ejaculation, the ban was eventually overturned as long as it was consensual.
- For kinky art focused on face-sitting, check out Japanese artist, Namio Harukawa.
- Face-sitting has a long history. I’d suggest that for as long as humans have had sex, there have been variations of it. But the stories of ancient Persian queening chairs and medieval tongue slaves have been dispelled by historians. Call them killjoys, or call it an opportunity for a new or better fantasy.
- The beds at Funhouse Wellington have headboards just perfect for grasping on to for face-sitting. No bespoke furniture needed (unless, of course, you are offering to be that chair).